February’s almost over, and the month wouldn’t be complete without mentioning Love Languages. While relationships are complicated and rarely find an easy fix, there are simple tools that can help us stay connected and keep our eye on maintaining healthy connections. Dr. Gary Chapman’s work provides us all with such a tool.
Not everyone has the same way he or she likes to express and receive the expression of love. Some people love words. Others prefer to be shown through an act of service or spending quality time with loved ones. Still others love tokens of affection or physical touch. Click here to take the quiz and see what your primary love language is.
When you know what you prefer, and what your spouse, children and teens prefer, it clears the way for you to provide affection and caring in efficient ways. You can reduce the amount of time you spend on activities that leave you wondering why your efforts aren’t appreciated. If you’re speaking a language that is innately understood, instead of one foreign to the recipient of your efforts, things are bound to go more smoothly—more of the time.
When we take the time to understand this concept, and make a concerted effort to speak others’ languages, especially when they are different from our own, our proverbial “love buckets” remain fuller. And when your love bucket is full, it’s so much easier to navigate the bumps of life and relationships. There’s so much more energy to deal with conflict and forgotten homework and socks on the floor and ridiculous requests when you’re feeling strong and appreciated—don’t you think? It’s so much harder when we’re tired, feeling unnoticed, unappreciated, unloved. So, take a minute today to brush up on a new language—your and your family members’ love languages. It’s worth the effort!