Every day has 24 hours. We all get the same amount of time, every single day.
Every week has 168 hours. We all get the same amount of time, every single week.
How much do you spend replenishing?
If you're like many parents I know, you don't even get enough sleep.
I challenge you to find two hours a week that are just for you to replenish. You can spend the other 166 hours working, taking care of the house, the kids, the committees, etc. When I put it that way, it doesn't seem like too much to ask.
Perhaps this means you sleep in at least one day a week. Or you go out with friends one time a week. You could read something enjoyable for 30 minutes every day. Maybe you take a yoga class or a fun zumba class every week. Maybe you go to the library and sit by yourself and look at gardening magazines.
Here are the rules:
1. It must be something that replenishes you--something you don't usually take time for right now that would make your heart sing a little bit.
2. You need to schedule it. I've never met a parent yet who had left over time. Not only that, but you need to put it in your calendar first and schedule all that other stuff that's never gonna go away around your time for you.
3. It can't be kid-related. No scrapbooking, or shopping for them or making stuff for them.
4. No TV or internet. Television is a zone out activity. It doesn't relax you or rejuvenate you. Different brain activity involved with watching TV or surfing the net.
5. If you schedule over it because the doctor you've been trying to get in to see for 6 months can only schedule you at the time you have set aside, you have to put it back in your calendar in the same week.
Think of it as an experiment. How will taking care of mommy's or daddy's need to replenish affect the family? How will prioritizing that over someone else's "wants" change things in our family?
Do it for a month and chart the pros and cons.
Your children deserve parents whose needs are met. And that's your job.