Today, I picked up a daily medication book I had gone through several years ago. I found notes I had taken about some things I thought I really, really wanted at that time. Some I have now, and some I still do not--which tells me a little something about what I think I want, and what I really, really want.
For many of us, it's more comfortable to stick with what is, even if it's less than ideal. Change can be hard. Here's one of my favorite quotes about it by Trina Paulus: "How does one become a butterfly? They have to want to fly so much that they are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
Based on results, I really, really wanted meaningful work that contributes to the good of humankind, and fulfilling, loving relationships with my family and friends.
Not so much? An organized home. Oh, it's ok and everything--but it's not the organized home in my fantasy when I wrote the list. There's still clutter and dust bunnies and dirty dishes and containers without lids, and the inevitable "to do later" piles.
But that's me.
What do you really, really want? Chances are, it's not really a new car or more clothes or even a really cool tablet.
Chances are, it has something to do with relationships.
Chances are, it has something to do with peace, joy, and love.
Ok, and maybe sleep.
here are many ways to go about goal-setting and goal-reaching, but one thing is for sure: if you don't have any goals, it's as likely as anything that you'll reach them. Yes, you read that right.
So, take a few minutes and think about what you really, really want. Pie-in-the-sky-magic-wand-world-peace kind of want. And be really audacious and take a few more minutes and think, in detail, how your life would be different, on a day-to-day basis, if you got that.
You might be a list person, and want to work backward from the big goal to little ones and make a list.
You might be a vision person and want to go here for a cool idea about how to make a vision board:
You might be a person who needs accountability, so you will get together with some friends and tell them your goals and ask them to check in with you about them.
Whatever you do, think about what you really, really want--for yourself, your relationship, your family.
Now spread those wings and go fly!